HOW HOLDING ON TO OTHERS HELPS US LET GO OF WHAT NO LONGER SERVES US
The other day I was reading in The New York Times an article about the impact of positive people. It mentioned that in Japan, women thrive until very old age because most are part of a "Moai,” a social group that forms to provide different kinds of support: social, financial, health, or spiritual.
And it made me think about us, New Yorkers.
Many of us have groups of close friends with whom we eat, party, share adventures, process our breakups, etc. But in a city where we all pride of being independent and fierce, how much emotional and spiritual support do we really take in? How open are we to being vulnerable?
The other day I was offering a Reiki session to one of my clients. It took her a long time to open up and receive energetic support. Once she did, she was able to let go of stress, relax and truly benefit from the session. But her first reaction was resistance.
Receiving support has never been my forte either. I still have to force myself to ask for help. But every time I do it, I’m like, “duh! It was so easy with someone else's help!”
One of the end goals of Reiki practice is to let go of anger and worry. In my experience, it is a lot easier to let go of something when you have the right kind of support. We worry less when we know someone has our back. Anger doesn't have such a firm hold on us when we feel loved, energized and accepted.
No matter how strong or independent, we all are interconnected. Which means that whenever life throws us down, there is a giant energetic net in which we can fall back. It just takes a little of awareness to feel it.
My practice to feel more connected to others:
I add a loving-kindness meditation twist to the Reiki meditation Joshin Kokyu Ho.
- Sit with your back straight. Close your eyes and place your hands in your lap, palms facing upward.
- Inhale and feel the energy coming in through the nose and moving down to the Hara (an energetic point 2 inches below your belly button.)
- Pause, feeling the energy filling your entire body.
- Exhale, expanding the energy out of the body through every pore, creating a big bright sphere of light that surrounds you.
- Repeat steps 3 to 5 as many times as you wish.
- When you have this routine down, bring someone you love into your bubble. It can be a pet or a friend/family member that brings you joy. Notice the difference in your body, especially your heart area.
- After a few breaths, let go of that pet/person and imagine your sphere getting bigger: filling the room, covering the neighborhood, the city, even the whole world. Notice any change in your feelings or body.
- After a few minutes stop the visualization, and sit for a moment in the space you created breathing normally.